OK, that’s not entirely true. Bragging when you’re nervous is actually the worst. And these are the 2 things preventing you from nailing the interview.
Confidence comes from comfort.
And yet, when you’re interviewing, you’re expecting yourself to brag (which you’re probably not comfortable with), and you’re nervous, because you don’t interview everyday.
How can you possibly put your best foot forward when you’re not comfortable?
You don’t have to be good at bragging to convey confidence in an interview.
And yet, so many of us feel uncomfortable bragging because as we’ve established, bragging is the worst. And people who brag are kind of obnoxious.
Being humble is valued in our society, so we downplay our experience. Women in particular are viewed as less likable when we advocate for ourselves, so we learn to give credit to others, defer, and smile and say “thank you for the opportunity”. It’s a tight line to walk, and we’ve become masters in the art of deference.
Let’s be clear about one thing here – talking about yourself confidently isn’t bragging, it’s just stating the facts. It’s being honest, and if you’re not being honest then you’re doing yourself a disservice.
You don’t have to be an expert at interviewing.
You hardly ever interview. Even if you’re super awesome at the #humblebrag, interviews are an entirely different type of conversation.
Interviews are conversations that you have once every 3-5 years. Interviews are super high stakes conversations that impact your life, 8 hours a day, 5 days a week for the next 2-3 years. So yeah, interviews are important.
You will likely interview for less than 20 jobs over your lifetime. And each time you start a new job search, the rules have changed, and you’ve changed.
How can you be confident in a scenario that you only encounter once every few years, that’s different each time you encounter it, when you’re a different person than you were the last time you encountered it? The answer is simple.
You HAVE to get comfortable with your inner awesome.
It’s time to get comfortable with the facts. It’s time to get comfortable with the full truth about your background. It’s time to get comfortable talking about your accomplishments without apologizing for them. When you’re comfortable letting your inner awesome shine, the unfamiliarity of an interview won’t get in the way anymore.
You’ve earned the right to be acknowledged for everything you bring to the interview table. It’s time to get comfortable with your inner awesome and let it shine.